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How to check in on someone, and what to do if you're worried about suicide.

Noticing that someone at the club doesn't seem themselves can be a bit unsettling. It might be a playing partner, a member of staff or a volunteer. You might not be sure whether to say anything, or what to say if you do.

This section helps with that. You don't need any training, and you don't need to have the answers. Most of the time, it starts with a friendly chat.

Where to start

  • If you're worried about suicide

    How to ask directly, what to say and do, and where to get urgent help.

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  • Get help

    Support for someone at your club, or for you, sorted by how urgent it is.

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  • If someone at your club has died

    How to prepare for, and respond to, a death in your club community.

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Checking in

Noticing that someone might be struggling, starting a conversation, listening and following up.

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In five steps

SLICE is a simple guide to checking in on someone. Tap a step to read more.

  1. SSpot the signsNotice when someone might be going through something.
  2. LLean inSay something, even if it feels awkward.
  3. IInvite them to shareIf they start to open up, make it easy for them to keep going.
  4. CCircle backFollow up. It shows them it mattered.
  5. EEncourage supportHelp them find more support when they need it.

A few things worth knowing

  • You don't have to fix anything.

    Listening and helping someone find support is enough.

  • You might be wrong, and that's OK.

    Checking in on someone who turns out to be fine does no harm.

  • Your club may have someone who can help.

    If your club has a Mental Health Lead or welfare officer, they can help you with what to do next.

  • Look after yourself too.

    Supporting someone can take it out of you, so talk to someone you trust if you need to.

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  • If life's at risk When there's immediate danger to life. Call 999
  • Samaritans Free to call, any time, for anyone struggling. Call 116 123
  • Prefer to text? Free and confidential, any time. Text SHOUT to 85258
  • NHS 111 in England and Wales Choose option 2 for mental health. Free, 24 hours a day. Call 111
  • NHS 24 in Scotland Choose the mental health option. Free, 24 hours a day. Call 111
Get help